I am not for everyone.
I am, in fact, hardly for anyone.
Which is true for basically everybody.
This is by no means comprehensive. It addresses the most common issues of interest.
Questions Pedantic
- I am very well. Never been better. Thanks for asking.
- My weekend was lovely. Almost certainly spent it with my dog doing outside things.
- My luck with online dating is such that I am still looking.
Questions Pointed
- I am from Portland. I have never lived anywhere else.
- I like my job, but the details of what I do exactly aren’t usually very interesting.
- My daughter is an adult, does not live with me, and hasn’t for some years now.
Questions of Preference
- I am not a huge fan of facial hair. As a rule, I like it on men about as much as they would like it on me.
- I don’t care about your height unless it’s a problem for you
- I don’t care about your financial/socio-economic status unless it’s a problem for you
Other Matters Weighty and Trite
- I am explicitly in search of an enduring romantic connection. I have complete respect for ENM, but am not interested in forming a connection with people who are already partnered.
- While I hope to find someone to share my life with, I do not envision myself getting married or undertaking conventional cohabitation.
- Motherhood was my first concern when my daughter was growing up. While having a child has been the most rewarding experience of my life, I am enjoying the freedom and flexibility the change in my primary focus has brought. If you are – or wish to be – raising young children, we may not be in the same phase of life.
- If you characterize yourself as religious we are unlikely to have a shared understanding of the universe
- I am forward, flirtatious, and sex positive. It would be foolish to believe this means I will immediately – or ever – fuck you.
- Attraction is binary. It is either there or it is not. It is either immediate or will never manifest. No matter how many other fine qualities you may have, if I am not attracted to you, there is absolutely no hope of winning me over. Failing that, I already have plenty of friends. I understand this applies in reverse as well, and that I will not be appealing to everyone. Rather than taking this personally, I simply accept this as a matter of fact and encourage everyone else to choose the same course; it’s less soul-crushing, that way.